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The Mindset You Need to Feel Better From Fibromyalgia, Forever...

Just like you guys, I have Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I was sick for seven years before I could get a diagnosis. When I think about it, it starts to make me angry. Doctors screwed with my life and stole 7 years away from me. If I would have just known what was wrong with me, I would have been able to get better so much sooner. But hindsight is 20/20, right?


When times are tough, it’s difficult to stay focused on your goals and aspirations. You’re sick almost 90% of the time so the only goals and aspirations you really have are feeling better. You may find yourself wondering when the hardships in your life will go away. The truth is, life’s hardships never truly fade away. You can use this to your advantage, though, by viewing these challenges as opportunities.


I was at my worst for three years. I eventually had to go on short term disability from work. I could barely move and was bedridden, practically crippled and definitely suicidal. I’m stubborn though. I’ve had a rough life. The only reason I’m still here is because of how stubborn I am. I thought my stubbornness was a trait from my father’s side. I realized, I come from a long line of stubborn women on my mother’s side.


I don’t like being told what to do. I never have and I probably never will. I’m very competitive. Granted I’ve mellowed over the years. I love to play tennis, softball, weight lift, golf, and do Pilates. I’m back in college and I get a thrill at letting my professors know that their textbooks have incorrect information. And I don’t stop until they believe me, which they always do…


There are two reasons why I am better today from Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. One is my husband, who kept me alive for years. He was my caretaker and my biggest supporter. Two, I didn’t like being told I would have to live the rest of my life being sick. It wasn’t an option for me. Don’t get me wrong, I still have moments but it’s usually if I’ve inadvertently eaten something that doesn’t work for me. I don’t do things on purpose that make me sick. I abstain from them. All of them.


The more you’re able to view life’s tests as catalysts for growth, the better prepared you’ll be to sail through them. There is a mindset you have to take on to start to recover from Fibromyalgia. And no! I am not telling you it is all in your head, because it’s not. It’s really all in your gut. What I am saying is you have to put it in your mind that you are going to take the steps to feel better from Fibro and live your life everyday in a way that keeps you healthy.


There is no maybe, or sort of, or kind of when it comes to getting well. There is yes and no. Black and white. Either something is good for you and your health and you do it or it is bad for you and your health and you stay away from it, to stay healthy.


If you’re teetering and haven’t made up your mind that you will live everyday for the rest of your life in a way that keeps you healthy come hell or high water, you won’t feel better from Fibromyalgia. It’s like an athlete. They have their eye on the prize. Nothing deters them. They know their goals, and they live everyday working toward that goal. Some people support them, and some don’t. It doesn’t stop them. They don’t even let themselves get in the way of their goal. That is the exact same mindset you have to take on, to feel better from Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.


I know because I did it. It wasn’t an accident. It wasn’t a fluke. And yes, I really have Fibro (3 doctors diagnosed me). I may not do kickboxing again, or play in a softball league again, but I can go play catch now and hit the ball around.


Fibromyalgia Health Coach, Fibromyalgia Mindset
Mindset to get better from Fibromyalgia


I’d like you to take these points to heart, and you’ll soon be on your way to navigating our life’s most tumultuous seas of Fibromyalgia:


1. Pain can drive you onward. Pain - whether physical or mental - is an indication that something, somewhere, isn’t right. People are taught from birth that pain is a negative force meant to torment or beguile us, but this isn’t the case. In most of our cases, as Fibromyalgia patients our doctors have denied our pain and have attributed it to some sort of mental issue. They are wrong. Pain can serve as a beacon in the darkness, a torch that illuminates the path.


  • Oftentimes, psychological pain is the result of unresolved issues that are smoldering beneath the surface. Only by confronting these issues, by bringing them to the surface, can you move beyond them. I am not saying psychological pain is causing Fibro or that Fibro is all in our head, because it’s not. I’m saying we need to resolve emotional and mental hurts so we can put it behind us, move on and get better.


  • Everything has an opposite, and pain is the opposite of joy. If not for pain, we would have no understanding of joy as a state of being. Don’t run from pain. Instead, face it head on and ask yourself, “What is the cause of my pain?”


I did this every day for years. What is the cause of my pain? The real root cause? No matter what your doctors are telling you, you have a biological root cause to your pain and exhaustion, and it stems in the gut. There are other issues, like heavy metal toxicity that can trigger the gut issues but there is a trigger. It doesn’t happen out of the blue. Don’t stop exploring what your root cause is and treating it until it’s fixed and you feel better.


  • The answer can lead you to joy if you’re willing to address the source of your pain.


  • If something is causing you pain physically or mentally, do the opposite. If people cause you pain, do the opposite. If your job causes you pain, do the opposite. If you have food triggers that cause you pain, do the opposite.



2. Your mindset determines your outcomes. How you react to hardship often determines how much of it you will experience.


  • Your reactions have immediate and lasting effects on both your body and mind and choosing to act instead of reacting can free you from habitual behavior that might be causing challenges in the first place. There are scientifically proven microbiotic changes that occur in your body when you have negative reactions. It is not healthy for our bodies and minds to be under constant duress or stress.


  • Optimism and realism aren’t mutually exclusive. Life’s ups and downs are part of the relativistic nature of the universe. It’s important that you face both with equal vigor. When you do, keep in mind that every decision you make should be done out of love. Love for yourself, love for others, but especially love for yourself. When you react to the reality of life around your out of love, it’s starts to change you, for the better.


  • When you swim in a lake or ocean, you know perfectly well that the crash of one wave leads to the cresting of another. Life operates in the same way, so expect each swell to bring with it its own challenge. Avoid letting negativity color your perceptions because right around the corner life will crest.


  • If you expect pain, you will react in pain. And if you react in pain - whether the threat is real or not - you will miss out on any opportunities hidden within the challenge itself. This is how the human mind works. I’m not even referring to Fibro here. We all have our “stuff”. You know, “stuff’ that causes us pain. Albeit, physically or mentally, it affects the way our bodies work.



3. Most fears are not representative of reality. It’s important that you differentiate between fears that stem from physical threats and fears that arise in the mind. For myself, most of my fears have stemmed from my mind.


  • The latter are often created by the brain as it runs various scenarios deep within your subconscious. When you dream, you become aware of this process. These mental fears are meant to keep you from taking unnecessary risks.

If we feel like something will cause us pain, an email or sitting in traffic, we have a biological response. Will sitting in traffic really cause you pain? Probably not but if it’s perceived as a threat, our bodies will react biologically in several different ways that impact our health.


  • To feel better with Fibromyalgia in today’s high-tech and interconnected world, you have to be able to cut through the pain. You have to have a mindset of peace and healing. This is the only way to convince your subconscious that the threats it perceives are not real.


  • You can absolutely overcome fear every single time if you’re willing to force yourself through the discomfort it generates. Typically, this discomfort will melt away the moment you dive into the task or situation you’re dreading.


  • The steps that you have to take to get better from Fibromyalgia can be scary. Terrifying. You already feel like you are all alone in a world that doesn’t understand. Now you’re going to have to live in a world where you toss out what is familiar to you, turn it up on its head, reject it, and build yourself up from scratch, which can seem even more terrifying.



Taking action with these concepts in mind will help you find solutions for working on your mindset to feel better from Fibromyalgia for the rest of your life. When you can manage the present, you can manage the future.


Remember: opportunity only exists in the present moment. And in order to build toward your ideal tomorrow, you have to deal effectively with the life you have today.


I feel like my doctors robbed me of seven years of my life. Every day that I wasn’t able to work on healing was a year lost. Every day you wait is more time lost. I want this to be your year.


The absolute first step to getting better from Fibromyalgia is changing your mindset. Everything you do today affects tomorrow. When you adopt the anything, it takes mindset to get better, write out your roadmap and stick to it, because it is the most important thing to you in the whole wide world. You can then start to feel better from Fibromyalgia.


Bottom line is this: once you determine that you will have laser focus in your recovery and won’t let anything stand in your way, especially yourself, to feel better from Fibromyalgia, everything will start to fall into place.


When I was sick, I woke up everyday thinking how could I get better? Now that I am better, I wake up everyday thinking how can I stay better and I avoid everything that gets in my way.


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